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Years ago, I watched the great classic movie “Yours, Mine & Ours” starring Lucille Ball and Henry Fonda. It gave us a sweet and humorous look at what happens when putting two families together. I just loved that movie. In comparison, the Bible says that in a marriage, “two will become one” which is exactly how God intended it to be.

When you first start dating, all you want to do is be together. You become engaged and get married because you want to stay together. You can’t wait to say things like “I would like to introduce you to my wife / husband” and “Welcome to our home”! When we do this, we are happily taking what is “yours” and “mine” and making it “ours”. But somewhere along the way, that closeness can be lost. We sometimes take on different interests and forget to include our spouse in the new parts of our lives.

So now, I’m seeing a different kind of “Yours, Mine & Ours”. Couples are drawing very distinct boundary lines within the life that they share. They say they love one another, and yet husbands and wives have begun living completely separate lives. I’m seeing the “ours” for many couples is becoming smaller and smaller while the “yours” and “mine” just keeps getting bigger and bigger.

This as an immense threat to our marriages and I believe it is the beginning of greater problems to come. Once you have reached the point of living separate lives, all that has to happen is for someone to befriend the lonely spouse. This friendship can then lead to a closeness that eventually, could possibly lead to an affair and even divorce.

The “yours” and “mine” will always be there because women like chocolate and shopping while men like hunting and sports. In spite of those differences, we can focus on the things that we have in common and make time to enjoy them together.

Also, we should take an interest in the things our spouses like, though oftentimes, we aren’t so interested in those things ourselves. While we are making the effort to keep the lines of our differences small, we will also be telling our spouses that we love them enough to take an interest in what is important to them.

I challenge you to make sure the “ours” part of your marriage is always larger than the “yours” and “mine”!

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EVERYONE IN THE WORLD SHOULD READ THIS ARTICLE AND MAYBE THEY WOULD WAKE UP. SATAN HAS ROCKED US TO SLEEP AND SO MANY MARRIAGES ARE IN SERIOUS TROUBLE.

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